You ever talk to someone & all they do is talk about themselves.

You ever pay attention to the things you say? Is that all you’re doing as well.

Sometimes when you step back & observe conversations, it’s literally people waiting for their turn to speak so they can relate that topic back them. We’re all guilty of it sometimes, and it doesn’t make for a very interesting conversation.

This goes back to identity & how we choose to identify ourselves. Sometimes we have this need to make proclimations to describe who we are, just incase people don’t didn’t know. The reality is the only true indicator of who we are as people come from our actions.

It feels as if we’re baby birds with our mouths open hoping for worms of validation, but our stomachs never fill. That’s the danger with validation, it’s an addiction with no end in sight.

We’re all self-absorbed to varying degrees, and our self interests dictate the decisions we make, but being mindful of these facts can do well to enhance our ability to interact with others.

It’s OK if we don’t get along with everyone; folks are like chemicals, and when they mix, the reaction can be anything. We tend not to like in others, what we don’t like in ourselves, so if you come across a person you can’t stand, it’s beneficial to pay attention to why, for your own sake.

Talk to people you’re interested in talking to, and ask them questions, because learning new sh*t is fun. If they’re not interesting to you, create a diversion & run away, life’s too short to be around folks you don’t want to be around.

Pay attention to the words & ideas you put out in the universe as well. If you’re all about yourself, you’ll only be left with yourself.

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“the fight is won or lost far away from witnesses - behind the lines, in the gym. And out on the road, long before I dance under those lights” -Muhammed Ali

rules only apply to folks who follow them

(P)IMP

…makes me argue just to see how much you’re in love with me

No Expectations, No Disappointments

Obviously easier said than done. We all have expectations & I would be an delusional-idealist to promote a life without them. Rather, we can, at the very least, use our disappointed moments to recognize the root expectation. Sometimes we may find that having such an expectation isn’t wise, or realistic, or even necessary.

I still have expectations of people, professionally & personally, and both still tend to let me down. If the behavior is repeated into a pattern, it’s on me to pay attention. I try my best never to play victim, because there’s no empowerment in feeling like one. Blame & power go hand in hand, so giving it away may not be the best choice.

When someone let’s us down, we can take the time to figure out if we want to allow that to happen again. After all, the past is just that, the past. We can only focus on improving the choices of our present to hopefully have a better future.

I know some of you reading this have been hurt by people deeply. Within that pain are jewels of wisdom that can put you in a position not to repeat the same foibles. Our heart is very resilient, and it will survive even when someone steps all over it.

For my older readers, you know this too well. Things that feel like the end of our world, rarely are. We can all be a bit over dramatic, and we need to realize we’re harming no one else but ourselves.

The responsibilities involved with your heart, rely solely on you. Don’t put yourself in positions for others to damage you, and if you do (which you will), learn from those mistakes , so they don’t hopefully happen again.

Pay attention to actions over words, they’ll always be more revealing.

I love you for reading this, but I have no intention of shielding you from the pain that life brings; it’s essential. We learn best the hard way unfortunately, but the next time you go through it, at the very least you may remember these words.

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they say your heart’s the same as your fist, so fight for what you love…

you’re making moves or your making and excuse

What’s The Meaning of Life?

The realization that our days are numbered have done wonders for the way we view our existence. Hit up a busy street & ask for their view on the purpose of life & you’ll hear responses ranging from the spiritual, apathetic, ambitious to depressed.

Some of us look to the past to figure out why were put here, and the ideas are grand. When you start to think of existence, it can get overwhelming, and I do see the appeal of prescribing to ideas that have already been though out & articulated.

Others look to nature, and decide that we should be doing like all the other creatures are doing. That’s pretty simple & logical, but we do definitely stand out amongst the animals on this planet.

Speaking with some folks, they’re motivations have much to do with continually distinguishing ourselves from the rest of life on the planet. I think this is the origins of morals as well, setting a tone to ensure we’re not just like any other animal, or at the very least, giving meaning to what we generally consider instincts.

I think the meaning of life is whatever you choose to give it. Moreover, The meaning you give it may not be the meaning others want, so let them pick their own (it’s a bit idealistic to assume people would actually respect other peoples’ rights to live differently, I know ;p )

I love riding my bike through the woods because the being surrounded by the habitats of others reminds me not to worry about things so much, that I’m just as significant as the ants on the tree and the dead squirrel on the side of the path. We are chunks of organic material that all share this dot, and the rules of nature still apply to all of us.

I know some of you reading this are living a life dictated to you, either by your parents, society, media etc. Realize you have the freedom to break out of that, with freedom comes responsibility though, so breaking free may make life a bit more difficult to maneuver. Even then, you have the freedom to make that choice.

Your Present is a Gift

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beautiful butterfly

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The Questions Are More Important Than The Answers

“know-it-all-ism” is a great indicator of youth & immaturity. Though it’s comforting to think there’s someone out there with the answers, it’s much more beneficial to seek them out for yourself. Your journey in life is unique, and the path you take can be partially followed & partially created by you.

Following a recipe of life prescribed by others is path of least resistance. It requires very little thinking on your part. These days with global access, you can find a recipe of life to dictate almost everything you do from what to wear, what to believe, who to admire, what to eat, and who to associate with.

The folks that ‘guide’ us often times are older, and older people just look wiser, they traded away their youth for knowledge & wisdom right? I have a couple decades on my belt, and I can tell you, though there is much learned along the way, older doesn’t necessarily mean much. The world is changing so fast, the only folks who have anything relevant to say, are the ones trying to keep up.

The smartest folks are the ones who are aware of how little they actually know.

It’s the pursuit of knowledge which you should follow. Folks who are on a continual journey to acquire new knowledge generally have a mind open to accepting new ideas, and the bravery to discard the old (and sometimes comfortable) outdated ones.

It’s OK if we don’t know everything, it’s NOT OK if we’re closed to learning new things. I’m fortunate to be of Sikh heritage, which continually promotes learning, growing & sharing (though there’s a boatload of folks who turned that into something else as well).

We’ll never have all the answers, and everything won’t make sense. If anything, as we get older, things become more complex, and we’ll find ourselves longing for the ‘simpler’ days which generally refers to our youth when we had simpler views.

This idea is a bit scary, but it’s also exciting. You are a vessel, and though your parents did a thorough job filling your head with a bunch of stuff similar to the stuff jammed in their brains; you are free to drain it out and start populating it with new things.

Personally I would recommend traveling, and if that’s not in your budget, meeting brand new exotic people & just listening to what they have to say. It’ll be a skill to mine for the gold within their words.

We’re all growing up, and each of us is at a different stage of development. Don’t follow those before you, seek what they were seeking. I think mentors are great, because their hindsight can be your foresight, but even then, make it your own.

Never stop asking questions & never be in a committed relationship with any of the answers.

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It’s just a that f*kin simple Holmes